About a month or so ago, I blogged about being part of the National Marrow Donor Program and how they contacted me about being a potential match. I finally got a response, and apparently I’m a suitable match, but the patient isn’t ready to receive a transplant at this time. I admit I only partially understand the implications of that, so I’m going to call and ask what it really means. The letter says if he becomes ready, I might be contacted, but that I’m officially back on the searchable list for other matches to be made.
I would encourage you guys to get on the list. It’s easy to do (they send a kit for you to take saliva samples and mail in) and you then have the opportunity to be a match for someone. And even with the new procedures they have, the experience itself is not that terrible looking. Plus, you could be saving a life, prolonging a life, increasing the quality of life for someone.
In other news, a fellow in flannel plaid brought me a delicious, black coffee yesterday. Seriously.
I recently had a single friend who brought up an interesting point. If it is socially acceptable for infertile couples to lament and mourn the children they will never have, why is it not socially acceptable for singles to mourn the children and the relationship they will never have? Just as many married couples hope for their own children, many singles hope to be married and potentially also have children. But we are supposed to either stay in a perpetual place of want (and thus be rendered as desperate) or are to be 100% happy with being single (and alone).
That said, I am tired of going through life alone. Tired of making all the decisions. Tired of being the only one my life affects. I’m tired of eating every meal alone, of cleaning up alone, of watching movies alone. It’s lonely. I don’t see marriage as a fix-it-all (I am well aware of the additional problems marriage can bring), but I do see the companionship that marriage can provide. It is a natural thing to desire relationship in our lives; we were created for it. But how do those of us who are perpetually single compensate properly for that in our lives? How do we reconcile where we are with where we hoped to be?