My sister is autistic. High functioning, but still autistic. If you don’t know much about it, you’ll probably just think she has some “interesting” social habits. The reason I bring this up is how very awful people are to her and have been her whole life.
I spent a lot of my childhood defending her. I lost friends (that is, chose to not be their friend) because of how they would treat her. But adults are no better than children.
Most recent example: My dad had joined an informal Christian bowling league. He got my mom and sister to join, too. They all really enjoyed it. But after my sister’s first year, they told my dad that he was welcome to come back, but not my sister. The complete assholes. Worst Christians ever. (Note: Dad did not go back. He didn’t berate them as I wish he had, but he did tell them he couldn’t return. By the by, my sister knows NOTHING of this, nor should she. She’s already aware of how people suck–she doesn’t need more examples.)
Yes, sometimes she does things that are annoying or cringe-worthy (only cringe-worthy because you know how other people will view it and that most of them are terrible). But the things she does are never on purpose that way, and it’s not like she can help it. So if it’s a problem, it’s yours, not hers.
And if you’re a Christian, you have double the reason to be kind, caring, loving. (Insert spiel about being like Jesus here.)
It’s really hard for me to be a Christian and to want to go to church when things like this make me hate Christians so much.