Sometimes you have friends who inspire you to be your best.  Sometimes they do this intentionally.  Sometimes simply because you respect them you desire to live up to the possibilities of your best.

This is differentiated from the friends who make you feel as if you’re not good enough or not enough.  That isn’t always intentional, either, but there can be the feeling that who you are is just not adequate.  That is not what I’m talking about.

The fundamental difference is in how it all plays out.  With a true friend, you don’t have to be afraid of showing who you are, of failing.  You can do those things because you know you will still be loved and accepted.  You know they will want more out of you, but not because you’re not good enough.  No, because you are capable of more.  On the flip side, if you don’t feel adequate, you’re probably going to hide your flaws and mistakes as much as possible.  And how is that a good or healthy friendship at all?

Oswald Chambers has a great quote along these lines: “Friendship is rare on earth. It means identity in thought and heart and spirit.”

So, friends of mine who inspire me to be my best: thank you.

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